Mr. Brightside

It started out with a kiss

How did it end up like this?

It was only a kiss

It was only a kiss

Now I’m falling asleep

And she’s calling a cab

While he’s having a smoke

And she’s taking a drag...

I never had so much problems choosing a title like I had for this post. There are just too many great songs covering this topic. Back door man (The Doors), I can't stand it (Clapton), I heard it through the grapevine (Marvin Gaye), Lyin' eyes (Eagles), Poor Tom (Led Zeppelin),  Spare me the details (The Offspring), Wake up dead (Megadeth), Bizarre love triangle (New Order), Dancing barefoot (Patti Smith)... 

But at the end I decided to go with The Killers. It speaks to me the most today.

So, if you know any of these songs (and I really hope you know them all), you know the topic of today's post.

I never cheated. At least when I was in a committed relationship. I have desired, of course. And I even had feelings toward other women. But I knew how to put them aside. The feelings. And the women. 

Or if there were to strong, I ended the previous relationship first. It wasn't pretty, it wasn't even fair, but it was a decent thing to do. 

I was never on the other side either. As far as I know. And it's better not to know. Much better... 

But I was the other guy. A couple of times. And that's what's bothering me today. Those times I knew I'm the other guy, anyway. Whether I knew from the start, or I found out when it was already too late. Too late to undo it, too late to end it.

Of course, I ended it, eventually. And now I'm thinking I'll never do it again. But...

For some reason I think I was always better as a paramour (lover) than I was ever as a boyfriend. Anyhow, that's for others to judge. 

So I have some experience on this field, and even more experience covering for my friends ( That's right guys, I'm not going down alone.). That's why I'm writing this post.

Of course, it's not my business judging other people who cheats their significant others. And I'm not judging, really. I know that every (love) story is unique. And there are complicated situations I can't even imagine. But I just don't think it's honorable. If you love someone, be fair. And if you don't love him/her anymore, let him/her go. I know it's not that simple, but it's the right thing to do. 

Choose! Choose whoever you like/love more. Choose whoever makes you happier. Choose whatever the hell you want, but just choose. Don't do to others what you don't want that others do to you. Because, in the end, you'll se that the one person you've been hurting the most is you... 

And like Meatloaf, you would do anything for love, but you won't do that. 

P.S. I would really like to hear your reasons for cheating. So write a comment. Anonymously, of course ;-)